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Don’t let others define you


“You were born original, don’t die a copy.” (John Mason)

As the quote above says, we are all born as individual beings, with our own unique talents, wishes, goals, dreams, ambitions and desires in life. There are no two people on this Earth who want the exact same things in life at the same time. Yet, so many people let themselves being defined by their parents, their family, their friends, their religion, their community, etc.

“The man who follows the crowd will usually get no further than the crowd. The man who walks alone is likely to find himself in places no one has ever been.” (Alan Ashley-Pitt)

Personally, I never liked to follow other people (friends, colleagues, family) when it came to decisions. I always made sure that I was making the choice that I really wanted to do, and not something a family member or a friend suggested. However, you can still be influenced in a less obvious way. It can be hard to ‘not please’ the closest people around you, and go the opposite way, if that is what you really want to do. But remember that you have only one life, so you have to make the most of it before you realise it’s too late.




People often come to me with ‘life advices’, about where I should move to, what job I should do, why I should do this or that… Today, these advices go in in one ear, and go out in the other, since I know that I am never going to do what other people tell me to do, unless it matches exactly with my own ideas.

When you are facing decisions, listen to your own inner voice. Not your parents, not your neighbours, not your boss… Get clear about what you want, and plan accordingly. The first step will be the hardest, but once you are on the right path, your dreams will unfold perfectly. Don’t think that following your own path is selfish. Expecting someone to live in a certain way is selfish. We are here to live, to explore and to be happy!





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Do more of what makes you happy!


Do more of what makes you happy! A simple statement that reminds us to follow our bliss.

Doing more of what makes us happy might be more important than we think. It will obviously make us happier, but we may not even realise in how many other ways it will improve our life.

We all need this reminder, because most of us are busy with everyday mundane tasks that we might not enjoy, or we are busy with a job we do not like, etc. Even if your life is busy, just try to find half an hour in a day to do something that you like. If you like writing, spend that time with writing. If you like baking, spend that time with baking. If you like decorating your house, spend that time decorating.  We all have something that we enjoy doing, and we are meant to follow our passions. Don’t let yourself caught up in a busy life that you don’t even enjoy! When are you going to enjoy your life if not now? Life is too short to waste it with things that you do not like.


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If you do more of what you like, you will lift your mood to the better. If your mood is better, then you will uplift the people around you, like family, friends or co-workers. If you follow your passion, you might create something big that will not only help your close environment, but also a much larger community. If writing is your passion, and you spend enough time with it, one day you might publish a book that will reach a lot more people and give you a lot more income. If baking is your passion, one day you might publish a recipe book of your own. The point is that if you follow your bliss, you will not only be a happier person who loves what they do, but also help other people with what you have created.

So let’s all take the time to do what makes us happy!


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The “S” Factor or Finding the Keys to Success


What do you think the “S” factor is?

What is the key to success? Yes, I’ve been wondering what is the key to success. What makes people successful? What is their secret?

Is there something special in these people, like an “S” factor? There is no secret, but there are some factors necessary for success.

We can learn these from the already famous and successful, but by success, I don’t mean becoming a world famous actor, singer, football player, whatever – I mean success on a personal level that will allow you to live the life you want and be satisfied with your achievements.

However, we can all imagine we are entering a talent show where they are looking for the “S” factor. What is it? What do you need to improve in yourself in order to win the game?

I came up with a list. Here is my 7 keys to success:

1. Talent 

You need to be talented in something. Now don’t say you don’t have any talents! Everyone has. Maybe in school you were not considered as one of those talented students, but all that should not define you. Education often makes a mistake by not recognising or not encouraging certain talents. You should be aware of what talents you have, and be brave enough to show it to the world. It is never too late!

2. Passion

If you pursue your talents, then it is not difficult to be passionate about them. If you know you are good at something and you love doing it, then passion comes with it. Don’t let it slip out of your hands and deliberately stay true to your passions in life!

3. Hard work

Success is not for lazy people. The bad news is that hard work is inevitable. Whoever achieved something great, they have all put an immense effort in whatever they were doing. The average person usually sees only the shiny-glittery surface in successful people’s lives, but they don’t consider how much hard work there is in the background.

4. Motivation

If you do something you love, then this power should be sufficient to keep you motivated day by day. However, the hardships of life may discourage you at times from what you are doing, and that is when it is the most important to see the big picture and refocus your motivation.

5. Luck

The concept of luck is hard to grasp. They say ‘luck’ is when hard work meets opportunity. It means you have to put in some (or lots of) efforts first, then your ‘luck’ may find you.

6. Belief

If you have wholeheartedly followed all the above points in your pursuit of success, then I am sure you have belief in what you are doing. Belief is important when you are facing difficulties, and it is necessary when you don’t yet see the manifestation of your dreams. You have to believe it first to see it.

7. Persistence

Finally, you need to be persistent in making efforts while you are following your dreams. Even if you have worked hard with belief and passion, you might fail once, twice or several times on your way to success. Never let it discourage you!

The following encouraging poster will show you that even the biggest had failed, but they never gave up! You shouldn’t either!

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“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10000 ways that won’t work.” (Thomas Edison)


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Do what you love!

Albert Einstein makes another good point here, and I think all teachers and educational systems should ponder on this question. Education often makes some students feel talentless, just because they are not performing well in a certain set of criteria. But the same low-performing students are sometimes able to achieve huge success in life.

We are taught things in school; but how much does this knowledge contribute to our success and happiness in life? And what is more important , how much do we actually love what we are doing? I am not against formal education, I am only suggesting some improvements, myself having graduated as a teacher as well. I personally thank a lot to my education, but I missed a certain kind of support in which they could have done better.

Maybe school is a good tool to give a qualification in our hands, and maybe we can pursue a career with that qualification all our life, and it allows us to make a living. But do we really love doing it or is it just a means to earn money?

I always felt frustrated when I had to make career choices. To choose something that you will do all your life. Really? Actually, you don’t have to. It is natural to change throughout the years of your life, to learn more about yourself through different experiences. First, what I found appropriate was to follow the examples that I saw around me, and many people do that. They follow their mom’s or dad’s footsteps until they realise this is not what they want. I also realised that I was different from the people around me; I have my own dreams, I enjoy doing certain things, while I may not enjoy doing some others.

I think that education should focus more on everyone’s personal talents and encourage students to go in that direction. If a teenager came to me to give them advice on a career choice, I would make them think about what they really enjoy doing and what their special talents are.

If one has big dreams, let them have big dreams. Nobody should feel limited, because other people don’t believe in them or it is their own family that does not support them. Everyone is supposed to do what they love doing.

Even if one choice fails, you still have the chance to move somewhere else, to learn something new, to try something else. You don’t have to be stuck in the same area all your life if you feel like it is not your world. You are never too old to start something new, and you will see that courageous choices always have their rewards in life.

Follow your heart and dare to dream big!