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Work with the Universe, not against it

 

The title refers to one of Eckhart Tolle’s quotes I have found recently:

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I have found this quote quite appropriate for my current situation, and I was meaning to write a follow-up post to my previous blog post: Everything happens for the better?

When I was writing that post I was in an uncertain situation where all I could do was to trust the Universe/God, have faith and continue to do my best. It did not take long for the ‘magic’ to happen as an unexpected phone call solved my issue.

The above quote from Eckhart Tolle reminds us as well to work with the Universe, no matter what situation we are in. Do what you need to do, do what is right, follow your instincts.

We might be waiting for a situation to get resolved. Instead of getting frustrated and worried, we should just do what we can do, and trust that the Universe/God will take care of the situation. It might take a while, as God might have a better/bigger plan for us.

Trust that all will be fine in the end, take all the necessary actions that you think are needed, and let God deal with the rest. Work with the Universe, not against it!

 

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Everything happens for the better?

 

We all heard the phrase ‘Everything happens for a reason’, and many times we can justify that statement. We might have made a mistake in the past and learnt the lesson to not make that mistake again. We might have experienced something that gave us valuable lessons and we have learnt and grown due to that experience.

However, do you believe that everything that happens to us is better for us in the end? We often want to achieve certain things in life, like getting a specific job, having a baby, selling a house – and things just don’t turn out the way we had imagined.  Despite all our efforts, we will not get the job, we will not get pregnant and we will not be able to sell the house. Is there a bigger plan that has something better in store for us?

It can be a real struggle when things don’t turn out the way we had imagined or it takes much longer time than we thought. It can be really frustrating when we have prepared ourselves, took all the necessary actions and it still doesn’t work out. What do we do then?

 

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All we can do is have patience, and trust that there is a bigger plan for us. In the meantime, we can focus our energies on what else we can do to improve our life. For example, if you do not get the job, maybe it is time to complete that course you were always interested in, and slowly build your own business. Whatever the situation may be, you can always improve a certain aspect of your life that might help you become the person you really want to be in the future.

 

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Dare to walk away if you need to!

 

Change in life is completely natural, and sometimes we need to make changes in our life to keep up with our personal growth.

Many people seem to be stuck in mentally or physically unhealthy situations, but in fact their life is not going to change until they make the decision in their mind that they want to change their circumstances and take at least the first step towards something different.

We all have an inner guidance that tells us whether a situation feels right or not, whether we are happy with how our life is going or not. We should always listen to this inner guidance and not what our friends, colleagues, family or media and advertisements say.

If you need help in following the right path, you can always turn to a coach, a consultant or psychotherapist. But you can also take some baby steps by yourself.  For example, you can read self-help books or find related forums online. If you want to meet like-minded people, you have to look for the company of people that are interested in the same things as you are. If you want to change your career, you should start getting more information about the kind of job you want to do. If you feel the need to move somewhere else, start playing with the idea and think where you want to move and why, what kind of house and environment you want to live in.

 

 

These changes are normal and natural, and we should not be ashamed to make changes in our life just because somebody does not approve what we want to do. That is their path and not ours.

Sometimes we have to respect ourself enough to walk away from people and situations that don’t serve us and don’t make us happy anymore.

 

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Who is the real You?

 

Sometimes in life we get so used to certain emotions and behaviours that we identify ourselves with these patterns. Our life is made up of habits, no wonder we can easily get used to some behaviours that are not necessarily beneficial to us, to our real selves.

Everyone had, for example in their childhood, certain patterns that they used in order to cope with the world or to get attention from their parents. While some children choose to be naughty, others may be full of anxiety when it comes to getting attention. Teenagers often get involved in dangerous activities to show off their newly discovered self, but others may go through stages of depression.

I believe these coping mechanisms stay with us in our adulthood, and we use the same patterns when we are faced with a problem. We may become full of fears before we make an important decision. We may be nervous when we try something new. We may turn to heavy drinking when we have a relationship issue.

Whatever the problem, we often return to these familiar behaviours, but is it really our true self?

Is it any good or beneficial? Clearly, it is not! Afterall, who wants to sit at home with depression or full of fears? We are tempted to think that it is our real self, because these behaviours seem to be a very comfortable solution when we try to escape from a situation we don’t like.

As a kid, you don’t realise that fears are often not real, but as adults, we should be able to realise that fear means only a lack of love and trust that Life is supposed to be good for you.

Life is supposed to be good, therefore there is no room for fears, worrying or self-destructive habits in it.

Don’t identify yourself with your familiar patterns. It is not the real You!

Remember the times when you felt successful, when you felt happy, when you were thriving! That’s the real You! If you don’t feel happy right now, try to change your situation and aim to achieve happiness again while being grateful for all that you already have!

 

 

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