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Don’t let others define you

 

“You were born original, don’t die a copy.” (John Mason)

As the quote above says, we are all born as individual beings, with our own unique talents, wishes, goals, dreams, ambitions and desires in life. There are no two people on this Earth who want the exact same things in life at the same time. Yet, so many people let themselves being defined by their parents, their family, their friends, their religion, their community, etc.

“The man who follows the crowd will usually get no further than the crowd. The man who walks alone is likely to find himself in places no one has ever been.” (Alan Ashley-Pitt)

Personally, I never liked to follow other people (friends, colleagues, family) when it came to decisions. I always made sure that I was making the choice that I really wanted to do, and not something a family member or a friend suggested. However, you can still be influenced in a less obvious way. It can be hard to ‘not please’ the closest people around you, and go the opposite way, if that is what you really want to do. But remember that you have only one life, so you have to make the most of it before you realise it’s too late.

 

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People often come to me with ‘life advices’, about where I should move to, what job I should do, why I should do this or that… Today, these advices go in in one ear, and go out in the other, since I know that I am never going to do what other people tell me to do, unless it matches exactly with my own ideas.

When you are facing decisions, listen to your own inner voice. Not your parents, not your neighbours, not your boss… Get clear about what you want, and plan accordingly. The first step will be the hardest, but once you are on the right path, your dreams will unfold perfectly. Don’t think that following your own path is selfish. Expecting someone to live in a certain way is selfish. We are here to live, to explore and to be happy!

 

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Follow your unique journey!

 

I got reminded today that we all have our unique journey in life, and we should all be brave enough to follow our unique path.

Today, someone else’s different perspective made me say out loud: ‘I am happy with where I am and I am happy with where I am going.’

It doesn’t mean that my life is perfect. It isn’t. But I know that everything I do now is the right thing to do at this moment, and I know that it is all leading to where I want to be.

Other people don’t know my life journey, they don’t know what I have gone through, and they don’t know where I want to be in the future.

We all have our unique journey, and we should not judge anyone based on our personal perspective in life. As long as you are happy with where you are, and you do the best that you can do, there is nothing to be judged.

Dare to follow your own path and happiness!

 

 

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You know what you want! Follow your heart!

 

A real life experience inspired me again to write about decisions in life and what is the best way to handle them.

It is very easy to get distracted from what our heart’s call is or what our common sense would urge us to do. There are endless false media messages and advertisements out there that want us to ‘have’ certain things or that make us think that we should live our life in a certain way. A lot of our friends are inflenced by these messages, or simply by the limiting beliefs they brought with them from their family and past; and our friends may influence us with their way of thinking.

Many times people forget to think with their own mind or heart if you prefer. One of my favourite quotes that I like to refer to from Buddha is: “Believe nothing, no matter where you read it, or who said it, no matter if I have said it, unless it agrees with your own reason and your own common sense.”

I have always been an independent thinker; and it has always been important for me to have my own space when life made me confused.

Being influenced by other people’s way of thinking can be confusing, it can be stressful or a negative experience.

 

 

That is when it is essential to know who you really are, what you really want, and what your heart is saying. Deep inside we all know what is right for us and what is not right for us. When we want to please a friend or family member with something that we do not really want to do, it is causing some kind of stress in us.

My suggestion to follow what your heart says may sound selfish. But the truth is that you will be a happier person if you do so, and if you are happy, you are going to be able to make people around you happy as well.

Afterall, you know what you want, and if something doesn’t feel right, it probably isn’t.

When you are on the path of your heart, everything comes easily and effortlessly. It will not feel like hard work. Even if you do work hard for something, you will feel the satisfaction and happiness that comes with it.

Keep listening to your heart!

 

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Finding your true self

 

This is going to be a rather philosophical post with an inspirational conclusion. I am sharing with you these thoughts, because maybe you have gone through or are going through something similar, and we can help each other on this journey.

Recently I’ve been wondering who I really am and how my upbringing, my parents, my larger family and my education influenced who I have become.

How do we know who we are? Is it something deep inside or is it what environmental factors make us to become?

Probably it is both. Just like with our physical appearance, we have genetics and environmental factors. For example, some people are ‘born’ to be overweight (it’s in their genes), while some people become overweight because they keep eating fattening foods.

Twins may be separated at birth if they get adopted, but research shows that even when they had been separated, their lives turned out to be very similar, which means there is something very similar between them on a deeper level. However, the environment in which a person grows up can also greatly influence someone’s choice of career or the quality of their relationships.

I am showing these examples, because I am wondering who I really am: What are those things that are innate in me, and what are those things that I have picked up from my environment? I feel like my family and education had a huge influence on me, but I do not like all of those influences.

Why do we, as individuals, like certain things and dislike others?

Why do people like different genres and styles of music? What does it say about a particular person? What does it mean if someone likes rock, dubstep, jazz or classical music? Our ‘likes’ can actually change, depending on what kind of people we spend most of our time with.

Why some people love reading books, while others never read any?

We might think that the more educated a person is, the more likely they are going to like reading books. We might think that introverted people are more likely to read books than extroverted ones. But an educated and a less educated person can both like rock music, for example.

How much education itself can influence our likes and dislikes?

I wonder sometimes if our education influences us on a healthy or unhealthy level.

In my personal life, I have followed some completely different paths than what was expected in my family.

My education ‘made me’ complete some university degrees which ‘do not earn me my bread’ right now. Again, I followed a different path.

 

 

I feel happy with the different paths I have chosen, but I am constantly questioning whether my likes and dislikes are good for me or not. Or rather, which one is the real Me? The one who should follow what my education made me to be, or the one who wants to be free and go for their dreams?

Well, I guess I know the answer.

If I follow my dreams, then I am a happy person. However, I sometimes feel a bug in me that says: “Why do you leave behind what you have worked for, what your teachers have taught you, what your family expected you to become?”

By the end of this post, I came to a conclusion and I do have a motivational message for you: Life is a journey, and we need to find happiness in each step; because if you are not happy right now, when are you going to be happy?!

We might need courage to follow our dreams, but I promise you, it is all worth it! Dare to be your real Self and enjoy the journey before it’s too late!

We all need to unlearn some things in order to find our real Self, and to fulfil our real dreams. For our own happiness, we should be able to think outside the box to realise that life is not all about following blindly what society expects us to become. It is an individual, unique journey for everyone.

 

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The secret to having it all

 

The secret to having it all is knowing you already do.

 

It is as simple as that.

Yes, it is simple, yet we overcomplicate things all the time.

You either believe in something or you don’t, there is nothing in between. It is easy to say “just believe in it and it will happen”,  and we are often struggling to believe in something in which we truly don’t beleive, because we have doubts, worries, limiting thinking patterns, etc. If you don’t believe in something, don’t force yourself to believe, because it will not work anyway.

I myself fell for this mistake many times. I wanted to achieve something, but I had doubts about it, and of course it didn’t happen the way I wanted.

There are things though in everyone’s life that are easy. They are just easy, light-flowing things that feel natural to you, they don’t feel like hard work. You may have to work, but it is all fun and you just KNOW that you are going the right way, following the right path, doing the right thing, because it is simply YOU. I think we should all concentrate our focus and energies on these areas.

We may have some desires we have, because we saw that other people achieved those things, like a new car, a holiday, a new home or anything. People often want things, because they think that these are going to make them happy. What makes someone else happy might not work the same way for you.

We don’t have to compare ourselves to others, we should have our own real dreams that come from deep inside and we ought to work on those.  Because these we know we are going to achieve, so there is no stress, no worry, just the knowing that we are going the right way and we will have it ALL.

Take the road less travelled

 

Why take the road less travelled?

Take the road less travelled and you may find what you’ve been looking for all your life.

“Two roads diverged in a wood, and I – I took the one less travelled by, and that has made all the difference.” (Robert Frost)

Whenever I made choices in life based on what I considered rational choices, they did not really bring any gifts or happiness with them. They were “okay” choices, I didn’t have to convince people around me that they were the right choices, because nobody objected those decisions.

When you choose to follow your own path, there will be people who will criticise you, judge you and even condemn you.  Never mind, you know what you want and where you will find it!

Choosing your own path may be harder, there will be obstacles, but it is definitely worth it! Much better than following somebody else’s path and regretting that choice later.

“Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.” (Ralph Waldo Emerson)