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Everything happens for the better?

 

We all heard the phrase ‘Everything happens for a reason’, and many times we can justify that statement. We might have made a mistake in the past and learnt the lesson to not make that mistake again. We might have experienced something that gave us valuable lessons and we have learnt and grown due to that experience.

However, do you believe that everything that happens to us is better for us in the end? We often want to achieve certain things in life, like getting a specific job, having a baby, selling a house – and things just don’t turn out the way we had imagined.  Despite all our efforts, we will not get the job, we will not get pregnant and we will not be able to sell the house. Is there a bigger plan that has something better in store for us?

It can be a real struggle when things don’t turn out the way we had imagined or it takes much longer time than we thought. It can be really frustrating when we have prepared ourselves, took all the necessary actions and it still doesn’t work out. What do we do then?

 

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All we can do is have patience, and trust that there is a bigger plan for us. In the meantime, we can focus our energies on what else we can do to improve our life. For example, if you do not get the job, maybe it is time to complete that course you were always interested in, and slowly build your own business. Whatever the situation may be, you can always improve a certain aspect of your life that might help you become the person you really want to be in the future.

 

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Why and how you should express your gratitude?

 

Keeping a gratitude journal is a great way to express your gratitude daily, but why is it even important to do that?

Expressing your gratitude daily makes you realise that you can appreciate so many things in your daily life that might have been taken for granted otherwise. If you take it for granted that you can walk, think about those people who got injured or are disabled in a way and cannot walk. If you take it for granted that you have at least 3 meals a day, think about those people who do not have enough to eat. If you take it for granted that you live in a nice house, think about those people who do not have a nice place to live. The list could go on and on.

If you get so busy and stressed out in your daily life that you forget to appreciate the little things, then you can easily get depressed and just lost in all kinds of negative vibes. If you feel that you are stuck in a certain area of your life and want to make some positive changes, I suggest you start a gratitude journal. Improving your emotions about a certain subject will help to make positive changes. Don’t focus on the problems, focus on the solutions. Feel positive emotions by focusing on the good.

Writing a gratitude journal daily can gradually shift your mood and improve your life. Do not expect immediate results, it will take some time to build up those positive emotions that are going to change your perspectives and your life.

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So how do you write a gratitude journal?

First, buy a notebook or take one that you already have. If it makes you feel better, you can buy a fancy-looking notebook for this purpose, but you can also use a plain one.

Then, take some time for yourself either in the morning when you get up or in the evening before bed, and try to write 10 things you are grateful for. They can be generic things, but you can also reflect on the things that happened during the day. I personally prefer to write in the evening, and I like to reflect on the day.

You can write, for example:

I am grateful for my tasty dinner.

I am grateful, because I live in a nice house.

I am grateful that I have a job and I can pay my bills.

You can use various other sentences as well, the only rule is that they have to be in present tense and they have to be positive statements. For example:

It feels good when I have time to pamper myself.

It makes me feel good when I take care of myself.

My technique for when I run out of ‘I am grateful’ thoughts is to think about future goals that I want to achieve. It is a great way to set your intentions for the future. For example:

It makes me happy when I plan the details of my holidays.

I appreciate when I can spend my time with like-minded people.

It feels good to take steps towards my goals.

Keep stretching your mind every day and build those good feelings! It is not the end of the world if you skip a few days, but every time you write in the gratitude journal is for your own benefit!

 

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Book recommendation

 

I am very grateful that I was introduced to this inspirational, life-changing book called Big Magic written by Elizabeth Gilbert, author of Eat, Pray, Love.

I feel a bit inappropriate to call this book ‘life-changing’, since people usually refer to books like The Power of Now from Eckhart Tolle, or The Secret from Rhonda Byrne as such. It is that for me anyway (like some sort of personal Bible). I believe I will get back to it in the future, and reread it for everyday inspiration and encouragement. It could be life-changing for many other people out there, who may never get around to read it. That is why I am spreading the message – read this book!

The primary theme in the book is about creative expression, therefore one could think it is written only for artists, such as writers, poets, painters, actors, etc. The author talks a lot about her own path in creative expression and writing. If you consider you have any sort of creative talents to be expressed, then this book is for you. If you never considered yourself talented in any creative field, there must be at least something that greatly interests you and find joy in pursuing that thing. Then this book is for you as well.

You don’t have to be a professional artist at all, this book in itself is an inspiration to follow through with whatever you like doing, just because you love to do it. The author encourages all of us to pursue our dreams, because it is fun, and reminds us all the time not to be discouraged by any outer circumstances. Because if we are in this lifetime, we might as well enjoy it!

 

 

 

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Don’t let others define you

 

“You were born original, don’t die a copy.” (John Mason)

As the quote above says, we are all born as individual beings, with our own unique talents, wishes, goals, dreams, ambitions and desires in life. There are no two people on this Earth who want the exact same things in life at the same time. Yet, so many people let themselves being defined by their parents, their family, their friends, their religion, their community, etc.

“The man who follows the crowd will usually get no further than the crowd. The man who walks alone is likely to find himself in places no one has ever been.” (Alan Ashley-Pitt)

Personally, I never liked to follow other people (friends, colleagues, family) when it came to decisions. I always made sure that I was making the choice that I really wanted to do, and not something a family member or a friend suggested. However, you can still be influenced in a less obvious way. It can be hard to ‘not please’ the closest people around you, and go the opposite way, if that is what you really want to do. But remember that you have only one life, so you have to make the most of it before you realise it’s too late.

 

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People often come to me with ‘life advices’, about where I should move to, what job I should do, why I should do this or that… Today, these advices go in in one ear, and go out in the other, since I know that I am never going to do what other people tell me to do, unless it matches exactly with my own ideas.

When you are facing decisions, listen to your own inner voice. Not your parents, not your neighbours, not your boss… Get clear about what you want, and plan accordingly. The first step will be the hardest, but once you are on the right path, your dreams will unfold perfectly. Don’t think that following your own path is selfish. Expecting someone to live in a certain way is selfish. We are here to live, to explore and to be happy!

 

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Your story for 2016 is unwritten

 

It is the beginning of the year 2016, and your story is still unwritten. You can write anything you want in it, so I advise you to make it a great one! The opportunities are there, just reach out for them and enjoy the journey!

Feel the rain on your skin
No one else can feel it for you
Only you can let it in

No one else, no one else
Can speak the words on your lips
Drench yourself in words unspoken
Live your life with arms wide open
Today is where your book begins
The rest is still unwritten

 

 

 

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Live your life your way!

 

This is just a quick reminder that you don’t always have to do what everyone else is doing. As social beings, we do need to accommodate to others many times, but we do not need to be copycats, and blindly follow everyone else. Too many people are wasting their precious time following and copying others, missing something in life, feeling empty inside.

Just use your common sense, and do what is best for you! It may sound selfish, but pleasing other people all the time will never make you happy either! Your parents might want you to become a doctor, but if painting and art is what makes you happy, then do that instead! You have to think of your own happiness and fulfil your own calling!

As an individual, you might prefer certain things to others, and you might be different from the people around you, but it does not mean that you are any less worthy than others. If you don’t like to go out for dinner with friends or colleagues, then enjoy your meal at home. If you want to eat the dessert first, then do that! Treat and love yourself! Be yourself, and live your life your own way!

 

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Book recommendation: The life-changing magic of tidying

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I have recently got to read Marie Kondo’s book “The life-changing magic of tidying”. I would recommend this book to anyone who feels that their home is constantly overcluttered or they never seem to get round to keep their homes clean and tidy. Keeping our living environment tidy is more important than we think. Our space often reflects our state of mind. If you live in an untidy home, then your mind is going to be cluttered all the time which could prevent you from achieving success and happiness in your life.

This book is not simply about decluttering our home. It is about getting rid of everything we do not need, everything that does not serve us anymore in a good way. The Japanese author suggests to keep only those things that “spark joy” within us. She has a spiritual kind of approach to tidying: you also need to learn to respect and appreciate your belongings in order to keep them neat and in good condition.

Keeping things tidy in this way is indeed magical, and life-changing, because your mind will finally clear up from all the stuff that surrounded you before, and you can turn your attention towards what is more important.

Finally a few words from the book: “After all, our possessions very accurately relate the history of the decisions we have made in life. Tidying is a way of taking stock that shows us what we really like.”

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