Archive | July 2012

Did you express your gratitude today?

 

 

 

 

I felt inspired to write this post, as I am feeling very grateful these days.

I was facing some challenges, and to overcome my negative feelings, I started to appreciate all that I have and all that I want to live and achieve in the future. (Just as I had written about it in my “How to write an appreciation journal” post, see here: https://noemifairy.wordpress.com/2012/07/18/how-to-write-an-appreciation-journal/)

Before I went to sleep last night, I managed to get to a state that I was feeling so grateful that the words of gratitude were just flowing from me, literally. I could not stop until I actually went to sleep.

The “challenge” that I had feared did not turn out to be that bad after all, and I have just found out that I am getting very close to manifesting some of my dreams in the near future.

I am grateful to know that dreams do come true. You may have to wait some time, but the most credible proof for me is when I find myself living the dream! So all your work is worth it, never give up on anything! Follow your dreams! You cannot fail if you follow what you love.

“Let yourself be silently drawn by the stronger pull of what you really love.” (Rumi)

And don’t forget to be grateful on the way!

 

Do what you love!

Albert Einstein makes another good point here, and I think all teachers and educational systems should ponder on this question. Education often makes some students feel talentless, just because they are not performing well in a certain set of criteria. But the same low-performing students are sometimes able to achieve huge success in life.

We are taught things in school; but how much does this knowledge contribute to our success and happiness in life? And what is more important , how much do we actually love what we are doing? I am not against formal education, I am only suggesting some improvements, myself having graduated as a teacher as well. I personally thank a lot to my education, but I missed a certain kind of support in which they could have done better.

Maybe school is a good tool to give a qualification in our hands, and maybe we can pursue a career with that qualification all our life, and it allows us to make a living. But do we really love doing it or is it just a means to earn money?

I always felt frustrated when I had to make career choices. To choose something that you will do all your life. Really? Actually, you don’t have to. It is natural to change throughout the years of your life, to learn more about yourself through different experiences. First, what I found appropriate was to follow the examples that I saw around me, and many people do that. They follow their mom’s or dad’s footsteps until they realise this is not what they want. I also realised that I was different from the people around me; I have my own dreams, I enjoy doing certain things, while I may not enjoy doing some others.

I think that education should focus more on everyone’s personal talents and encourage students to go in that direction. If a teenager came to me to give them advice on a career choice, I would make them think about what they really enjoy doing and what their special talents are.

If one has big dreams, let them have big dreams. Nobody should feel limited, because other people don’t believe in them or it is their own family that does not support them. Everyone is supposed to do what they love doing.

Even if one choice fails, you still have the chance to move somewhere else, to learn something new, to try something else. You don’t have to be stuck in the same area all your life if you feel like it is not your world. You are never too old to start something new, and you will see that courageous choices always have their rewards in life.

Follow your heart and dare to dream big!

How to write an appreciation journal

 

Here is another ‘how to’ post from me after the previous one on how to use affirmations.

I have greatly enjoyed and benefited from writing an appreciation/gratitude journal for the past few years, and that is why I thought I would share my experiences with you. This method is easy, it doesn’t take long: it only requires a small notebook and a little writing.

We could call it a ‘gratitude journal’ as well, but I prefer ‘appreciation’. Let my explain why. There is a slight difference between the meaning of the two words: ‘gratitude’ refers to something you are grateful for, something you already have, some probelm you have already solved or some experiences you have gone through and learnt from them; while ‘appreciation’ refers more to feelings and likes in general, to your feelings in the present moment and it can even open you up to positive experiences in the future.

I read and heard about endless methods, techniques and exercises related to the law of attraction and how to achieve our dreams and goals. But what I found the best for me was definitely the appreciation journal.

While some people prefer talking about things or other creative methods, this kind of technique might be better for those who prefer writing. The idea is that you write down, let’s say, 5 things you liked, loved, appreciated that day, and you do this every day.

You might mention someone who complimented you, someone who helped you, something you achieved that day, but you can also go more general and appreciate the delicious food you had, the comfy bed you are sleeping in, etc. When you can’t think of anything specific, you can consider what you like in life, how you would like to experience things in the future.

You can use various formats to begin the sentences, they don’t have to be all the same. For example:

I appreciate…

I am grateful…

I like…

I love…

It makes me happy when…

I love imagining…

I am glad…

I am happy…

It is great…

It feels good…

When I first started writing a gratitude/appreciation journal, I could not really get the feeling of the ‘I am grateful’ type of sentences. I felt like they were empty sentences, but in fact, true feelings are as important here as when you are using affirmations. That is why I prefer using various expressions and call it rather an appreciation journal. Of course, I do use ‘I am grateful’ when I feel it is appropriate.

I admit that I don’t write the journal all the time, and when I do it, I might skip some days. But then, the next time, I do write more than 5 things to appreciate. Actually, once you start thinking about it, more ideas come up and you easily find yourself with more than just 5 thoughts to put down.

I find this method the best to raise one’s vibration, to feel better. You can also use this to focus on a certain area of your life with the intention to improve it. Those who are familiar with the works of Esther and Jerry Hicks know that they also advise the method to write down all the things you appreciate about something when you want to change your vibration about it.

When you have a problem, you want to change your attitude about it, you want to ease your feelings, you want to feel better. If you focus on the things you can appreciate in your now, you distract your attention from the problem, and you already feel better. Better feeling thoughts will attract better experiences. Your first task is to focus on better feelings, then you will be able to focus on the solution.

So what are you grateful for today? What do you appreciate?

 

How to use affirmations

When I was browsing through my collection the other day, I found some useful affirmations I compiled years ago, and I thought it would be nice to share my thoughts on them with you.

What are affirmations?

Affirmations are present tense, positive sentences that you use when you want to change your attitude or feelings towards something. They should be repeated several times when you are in a relaxed mood. They must not be negative statements, as you want to concentrate on what you want, not what you don’t want. The sentences must not be in the future tense, as you want to feel the positive vibes right now.

Do affirmations really work? And what is the best way to use them?

What I found was that affirmations work if you can believe them from your heart. Therefore, the most important point is to use or create an affirmation that you can identify yourself with. If you are new to affirmations, I advise you to use some you find here or in any other collections, but select only the ones that you find true for yourself. For example, don’t keep repeating “I am rich” if you are clearly not, because it will create further resistance or negative feelings in you.

The role of affirmations is to create positive feelings and to maintain them. Don’t repeat “I am successful” if you feel like you are not successful at this stage of your life. For success, you can create a sentence like “I am taking baby steps each day to become successful in my business.” You can accept this as true for you. Affirmations are a great tool to help you keep focused on what you want to achieve.

When to use them?

You should find some time during the day when no one is going to disturb you, and you are able to relax a bit. In the morning just after you wake up, take a few deep breaths and repeat your affirmations. Or you can find some time in the evening and include using your affirmations in meditation. But you can also write or print your favourite ones, and put them somewhere you see them regularly, such as near your desk, computer, mirror, etc.

Please, find below some examples. After some practice, you will be able to create your own ones.

I fulfill my creative side.

I love to communicate and attract loving experiences and people to me.

Limitations are merely opportunities to grow. I use them as stepping stones to success.

I can shape my own destiny.

I focus my attention on loving myself and trusting the Universe.

I turn every experience into an opportunity.

Gratitude brings more to be grateful about. I am grateful.

I see prosperity everywhere and rejoice in it.

I relax and rejoice in the abundance that is here now.

I release the  past with ease and trust the process of life.

The above affirmations are from Louise L. Hay.

If you are interested in using affirmations, I encourage you to look at a greater collection. However, I do believe that your own personalised affirmations will be the most effective.

Don’t believe everything!

 

I was pondering further on how much our mind is living and working with thoughts that are not even our own thoughts. When I find myself with certain limitng thoughts or doubts, then I ask myself:  Whose thoughts are these? Are they really my own? Or is it something I “inherited” from my parents, my family? Or is it something that my teachers taught me, or did I see all this on television?

Sometimes I feel like I need to get away from it all to clear my head and see what is really true for me. I stopped watching TV years ago, and due to this, I can see even more strikingly how much negativity and a limited (negative) reality is conditioned into people’s mind through the news and other programs. Has it been always like this, or is it the curse of today’s modern society?

People tend to believe in things that is widely accepted in their narrow or wider community. That is all psychology, just the way groups work. If people didn’t accept rules made by others, then communities could not exist. If we think back in human history, there were times when people believed in things that we find ridiculous today. For example, Christianity in the Middle Ages made people believe in dogmas, witchcraft, etc.; and they tried to get rid of everything and everybody that didn’t serve the purposes of the Church.

People believed the Earth was flat until somebody proved it wasn’t.

“All truth passes through three stages. First, it is ridiculed. Second, it is violently opposed. Third, it is accepted as being self-evident.” (Arthur Schopenhauer)

What people believe or believe not is a huge topic in itself. Some people believe only what has been scientifically proven. Maybe our world today relies too much on science, and we forget to listen to our heart and common sense. Have you ever wondered why do we actually eat so many artificially made items of food? Have you ever wondered why there are so many cancer related health issues and what keeps them alive? Why do we have so many stress-related mental diseases? Why do people heal(?) themselves with chemicals? And why tribal nations living close to nature never have these problems?

Don’t take everything you hear granted, use your common sense and take the constant effort to clear your mind of unwanted thoughts! I do believe that returning to nature (literally) and to our true nature is the key to a long, happy, healthy life.

 

 

 

Use your imagination!

“Logic will get you from A to B. Imagination will take you everywhere.” (Albert Einstein)

No more words are necessary to add to what Einstein said, we only need to apply this in practice in our own life that we are living right now. Children always use their imagination, but as adults we often forget that we can indeed create new worlds by using our imagination.

If we wish to change something in our life, why not imagine different outcomes than what we are used to or what logic tells us!? Our logic works based on what we experienced before, but what if things were different this time? Dare to use your imagination! First, just for fun. Then, you will be able to create new experiences in your life, because you dared to use all the colours in your mind, and your life will show up with new turns that you couldn’t have expected if you had used solely your logical thinking.

Einstein also says imagination is more important than knowledge. Indeed, we need to be able to imagine new things, new outcomes so that we can expect them to happen.

We should all get creative mentally if we do not want to get stuck in the boring routine of everyday adult life. Let’s create new worlds with the help of our imagination. It is possible! Add a little colour to your life and expect different outcomes! Where would you like to go? To a tropical island? Who would you like to meet? What would you change in your life?

Let’s have fun! Imagine everything you would ever want if there were no limitations! As an exercise, you can write down about 5 things every day in a notebook – you will definitely open your mind this way, and sooner or later those fun events or at least some of them will appear in your life!

“Live out of your imagination, not your history.” (Stephen R. Covey)

You can change your life, anytime!

You can change your life anytime! Yes, you don’t have to stay stuck in the rut. Even if you are not in a rut, just need a little change or improvements, adventures, new career, whatever – the good news is that it is all possible! It takes only some time to achieve that. Believe in your dreams, think free and never give up!

When we are about to start a new project in our life, we might have thoughts and worries like “I am too old for this” or “It’s going to take too much time”, etc. The truth is that it is going to take some time, but in the end it will all be worth it. And who says all those things in your head? Your parents, your friends, your colleagues? Would you really throw away your dreams, something you always wanted to learn or do just because of some voices in your head?

The process to achieve those dreams might take some of your time, your money and some changes in your life, but you can adapt to some changes, right? Why couldn’t you? You can ask for help if you need someone to look after your kids, if you have unanswered questions, if you need two extra hands or anything else. There are always people around who are happy to help. It is never too late to be who you always wanted to be or do what you always wanted to do.

It is possible to change your life if you really want to. It is a process, so you better enjoy the journey. Enjoy learning something that you chose to learn, because it will take you where you want to be. Imagine the changes that are going to take place in your life and feel happy about it. Forget the people who are doubting you and search for friends who support you on the way. It is not going to happen overnight, but one day you will find you’re living your dreams! And you will think it was worth all those efforts and you would not have done it any other way if you could go back in time.