Archive | June 2012

Surround yourself with people who lift you higher

 

As Jim Rohn says: “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”

Take a look at the people you spend most of your time with and ask yourself some questions. Are they positive and supporting enough? Or are they limiting you in any way? Do they constantly complain about things and never believe in your aspirations? Because if you find that they are not supporting you enough, it is time to look for new friends who have similar interests and ambitions to you.

I have found this particularly important in my life. Sometimes it was very difficult to find people who would understand my dreams, and the problem of questioning and doubting did not even occur in conversations. I believe it is crucially important to surround yourself with the right people, both for your emotional/mental health and also for your greater career aspirations and success.

 

 

I always really appreciated when I met people who had the same interests and desires as me. It felt like home! You suddenly gain a huge amount of self-esteem and belief. Finally you believe wholeheartedly that anything is possible you set your mind to. And you can even share the journey with others!

Sometimes it is a bit of a struggle to find these people and to just get out of the negative circles.

Think about your interests and hobbies, go to your local club, take lessons in yoga/dance/music/whatever you like, and you will find the people you need. For your career, visit job interviews even if you feel like you are not ready for that dream job. You will gain experience, get the vibes, hear stories from other people, learn from them – you can’t loose anything! But never waste your time on those who constantly make you feel down, doubtful or negative.

“Surround yourself only with people who are going to lift you higher!” (Oprah Winfrey)

 

Have simple faith in your dreams!

This post is a follow-up to one of my previous posts “Simplicity in life” which you can find here:

noemifairy.wordpress.com/2012/06/16/simplicity-in-life/

Actually, what I originally got inspired to write about there, was the simplicity of one’s faith regarding their dreams. By “simplicity” I mean that it is simple, it is not complicated, it is obvious. When you have a dream, and you know that you are going to achieve it. You know it, there are no doubts, no worries, you are working on it, you have been working on it all your life, it comes from deep inside your heart, there are no questions, no complications, you genuinely believe in it, because this is about You!

I met someone and shared one of my dreams with him. He had 100% faith that my dream can come true, even though that person did not even know much about me. I would say he had more faith in me than I had in myself at that moment. And that was when I realised that my mind was way too much overcrowded with all kinds of disturbing and limiting thoughts that I have picked up here and there. I forgot to believe in my own dream and rather believed other people’s worries, doubts, patterns and limiting beliefs.

That was when I thought how much an average person’s mind is filled with thoughts that are not even their own. We inherit these thoughts from our parents, family, teachers, friends, from our greater society and from the media. It seems like it is very easy to get too much negative information these days; and it seems all the more important to get away from it all and clear our heads.

We need to feel that genuine passion for whatever we like. If we have forgotten what we really love doing in the midst of stress and routine of everyday life, then we need to get away from it all for a while. It is best not to forget what we love doing, to work on it all from our childhood and teenager years. Can you remember what was your dream when you were a kid? What did you enjoy doing? What did you want to become when you grow up? Did you forget it all due to the stress and other problems in your life? Are your problems more important than your dreams, than who You really are?

Have faith in your dreams! noemifairy.com:

 

“I travel a lot, I hate having my life disrupted by routine.” (Caskie Stinnett)

There is no need to rush, you know who You are. Don’t get caught up in what you don’t like! Remember the simplicity of life and have that simple faith! Nothing is complicated when you follow your heart, only our mind makes it so!

“Nature does not hurry, yet everything is accomplished.” (Lao Tzu)

Writing and Me

 

I thought it is about time to tell you why I am actually writing and introduce my story to all.

I have only started publishing my posts recently, but the idea of becoming a writer was born in me first when I was 14 years old. I read some articles from famous writers and I thought I could do that too! I wanted to become a journalist until I am able to write my own stuff. I even got a degree in journalism, however what I learnt there was totally not related to anything I want to write about. I want to feel passionate and inspired when I write, I don’t want to feel obliged to write about topics that are uninteresting, boring or even negative to me. And you know what the media is like today… I do not wish to be part of that.

I have always loved writing, I did write my own diary about life and private events, I did write endless essays for school and university assignments. And now is the time to write about what I like and share it with others.

What makes a good writer? Inspiration and passion for writing, but I guess the first step is to start!

 

 

I wanted to start so many times before, I just could not decide what to write about and in what format, etc. Maybe my time has come now.

Also, there are the distractions. The Internet can be a major distraction these days, however it is a great source of inspiration as well. One has so many other things to do in this lifetime: jobs, studies, money, bills to pay, etc.

If I think of the great writers of the 19th century, for exmple, they did not have as many distractions as we have today: newspapers, advertisements, radio, television, internet, etc. I suppose writing was a great activity to spend time with at that time. The average length of books published from the 20th century has significantly decreased, because writers do not write as much anymore and probably readers do not read such lengthy novels either.

 

You get what you pay attention to

We have heard about so many techniques as to how we can achieve our goals and many of us get disappointed or frustrated on the way, because those goals don’t seem to get manifested.

We know that all law of attraction teachings say that you can be, do or have anything you want, there is no such thing as impossible, you can achieve anything. These are all nice to hear, but not as easy in practice.

Let’s remember that law of attraction says like attracts like. To put it simply, positive thoughts and feelings attract positive things, negative thoughts and feelings attract negative things. Obviously, we want more of those positive things in life. But a human mind has so many thoughts that oftentimes they cannot be purely positive. Another important factor is to have purely positive thoughts and feelings about the goal you want to achieve.

Supposing you have a goal, do you have purely positive feelings about it? Or do you have some doubts and worries? In one of my previous posts, I have already touched this topic. How do you feel about your goal? Are you sure that you are going to achieve it? Because you have to be sure! And don’t just say you are, you need to feel that way. If you don’t feel that way, you better choose another goal that comes from deep in your heart; and do not try to achieve something, because you have seen that it made somebody else happy or successful. Follow your own heart and your own goals!

And the crucial point I wanted to get to was that you get what you pay attention to, and not what you want. You may say I want that car or job or relationship, but if you have any negative thoughts surrounding that topic, like you can’t afford it, you are not good enough, etc, it is guaranteed you are not going to get it! If you want to change something in your life, but you keep paying attention to the things you don’t like and you keep complaining about it, you will get more of it.

You get what you pay attention to! So if you want to come out of this negative circle of thoughts, then I advise you to pay attention to what you like, and appreciate the good things that you already have! Pay more attention to the good things, and don’t let your mind get lost in those negative thoughts! Appreciate the good moments, feel the good feelings and enjoy the good experiences! Build those positive thoughts and feelings! Stay positive!

Ignore what you don’t like

I am writing this post partly from my own experience as to how one can feel better in everyday life. Feeling better is not only about “feeling better”, but that is actually the key to anything good coming into your life. Once you feel better, you are able to attract more good things.

Law of attraction says like attracts like, therefore if you are feeling bad, you cannot attract anything good. Even when you have a goal that you want to achieve, but you have a bit of worry, a bit of tension or a bit of doubt going on, it is not going to happen or not the way you wanted it to happen.

Sometimes we try hard to feel better, but in fact our conscious trying doesn’t really work. You constantly seem to see the things that you don’t like and keep repeating those thoughts that you don’t like.

One way to feel better is to think about things you like, let yourself enjoy what you like, simply for the good feeling, not for any purpose or goal. Another way is to try to ignore all those things that you don’t like: that annoy you, that you want to get rid of. You can even go on a challenge: try to ignore things you don’t like for 21 days, and every time you notice yourself complaining, remember that you have to feel good!

Once you are able to ignore things you don’t like, the Universe will surprise you with things you DO like! They might be little things, but those are the things you want to say “yes” to. Say “yes” to the things you like, appreciate them, be grateful for them! Thank the Universe, because you experienced something you loved! Ask more of it! Love it and you will get it!

Simplicity in life

 

There comes a time in life when it is time to unlearn what we have learnt. Well, not everything, but at least certain things. You need to be wise enough to know what you need to unlearn… Or maybe, it is just enough to keep it simple!

We tend to overcomplicate things in life, especially in our busy, over-stressed westernly culture. We have to think about so many things: work, studies, finances, bills, shopping, family, children, etc. It is easy to get troubled in thoughts. But is it really what Life is about?

We need to stop sometimes and think about what is really important. And what we, as individual, unique personalities can give and enjoy in this life? We have been taught to certain things from early childhood, we have heard our parents and teachers say things to us that were either true or not. Whatever it was, it only represented their perspective or what they have been taught by others. Not to speak about the media, especially television that is manipulating our world-view so much. I often wonder whether people still have their own thoughts and common sense, or they are completely brainwashed by what the media and their  “culture” teaches them.

 

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One of my favourite quotes from Buddha says it all, this is what we should always remember:

“Believe nothing, no matter where you read it or who has said it, not even if I have said it, unless it agrees with your own reason and your own common sense.”

Sometimes we need to get away from the hustle and bustle of life. We have to spend time in nature, admire the beauty of flowers and animals, go somewhere else to breathe different air, visit another country to see things from a different perspective. We have to appreciate the beauty of life and also our own special talents. Why do we need to choose a career in order to make a living? Why don’t we just do things we enjoy and have the talents for? I know it is not always very easy to do, but in the end, we should aim to follow our passions, otherwise we are destined to a bitter life that was lived through with hard work and no fun.

So I ask you all to believe in what you like, use your common sense, don’t overcomplicate things, follow your passions, do what you like, even if you are not paid for it, because it will make someone else’s life better and one day it will all be appreciated!

I thank this post to a special somebody who I met in a special place who reminded me of the simplicity of life! Even if we don’t meet again in this life, I thank you for the encouragement!

Get rid of the box

 

There is nothing more annoying when somebody you know cannot think outside the box. You know you are able to do something, and that certain somebody just keeps repeating their doubts and worries as to why you should not do that. It feels good to think outside the box, especially when you can prove to other people that you were right all along.

We all have limiting beliefs that were implanted into our brains during our upbringing by our parents, family, teachers, religion, culture, government, etc. And the process probably has not stopped as we reached adulthood, we are still getting those limiting thinking patterns reinforced through our nearest environment and also from the media. Our brain is flooded with those thoughts that are not even ours. We better think our own thoughts!

Deepak Chopra goes even further, don’t just think outside the box, but get rid of the box:

 

 

 

Yes, why don’t we get rid of the box?

All those boxes that keep our mind in limitations. There must be many of them, but we can at least try to get rid of one and forget all the limitations that our brain keeps repeating to us when we want to do something.

If we have a desire that is really our own, then why should we believe in limitations? Who says it is not possible? Who says you need to have a certain qualification to get the dream job? Who says you have to work hard to earn a lot of money? Who says you cannot do this or that? Who says you cannot do what you want whenever you want it?

We have all seen “miracles”, we have seen exceptions, we have seen people who achieved great success because they followed their dreams and passions and did not care about what other people thought or said. So why wouldn’t it be possible for us?

Let’s free our mind of the limitations!

 

The secret to having it all

 

The secret to having it all is knowing you already do.

 

It is as simple as that.

Yes, it is simple, yet we overcomplicate things all the time.

You either believe in something or you don’t, there is nothing in between. It is easy to say “just believe in it and it will happen”,  and we are often struggling to believe in something in which we truly don’t beleive, because we have doubts, worries, limiting thinking patterns, etc. If you don’t believe in something, don’t force yourself to believe, because it will not work anyway.

I myself fell for this mistake many times. I wanted to achieve something, but I had doubts about it, and of course it didn’t happen the way I wanted.

There are things though in everyone’s life that are easy. They are just easy, light-flowing things that feel natural to you, they don’t feel like hard work. You may have to work, but it is all fun and you just KNOW that you are going the right way, following the right path, doing the right thing, because it is simply YOU. I think we should all concentrate our focus and energies on these areas.

We may have some desires we have, because we saw that other people achieved those things, like a new car, a holiday, a new home or anything. People often want things, because they think that these are going to make them happy. What makes someone else happy might not work the same way for you.

We don’t have to compare ourselves to others, we should have our own real dreams that come from deep inside and we ought to work on those.  Because these we know we are going to achieve, so there is no stress, no worry, just the knowing that we are going the right way and we will have it ALL.

If your dreams don’t scare you, they are not big enough!

 

Dare to dream big! What happens in the worst case? You might not achieve all your dreams, but in the end you can say that you HAVE achieved some!

“Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss it, you will land among the stars.”
(Les Brown)

People tend to get so stuck in the everyday routine of work and life that they forget about the dreams they had as a child, as a teenager or as a young adult. I believe people could be much happier if they were encouraged since childhood and in school to follow their dreams, their passions and to expand their talents.

“You’ve got to follow your passion. You’ve got to figure out what it is you love – who you really are. And have the courage to do that. I believe that the only courage anybody ever needs is the courage to follow their own dreams.” (Oprah Winfrey)

I know it is not easy, especially for people who live with financial difficulties, but I believe that a person with genuine passion for something CAN achieve what he/she wants. What happens in most cases is that our schools do not support us in expanding our talents (of course, there are exceptions) and our own family and closest environment do not support us in following our passions either. They are often too much caught up with the everyday stress of work (that they hate) and the boring routine of life.

So dare to dream big and be creative! It doesn’t matter if it all seems unrealistic at this point in your life. If you don’t dare to dream, it is guaranteed that you are not going to achieve any of them. If you dare to dream, one day you’ll find that you are living the life you have once dreamed of!

 

 

 

First appreciate what you have

 

First appreciate what you have, then ask for more.

What I noticed in my personal experience was that whenever I wanted to achieve something, I had to be glad with what I had first.

It happened many times that I wanted something sooo bad, and it just didn’t come. According to the law of attraction, you can only attract good things if you feel good, if your vibration is on a positive frequency. When you worry, when you are negative, when you are lacking, needing, resisting or making excuses, IT will not come.

It is hard to achieve a positive vibration when you are so used to a negative one. But one thing you can do is start appreciating whatever you have. The smallest thing in your day that made you happy or feel a little bit better. Appreciate what you have already achieved, the place where you live, the schools you have finished, the skills and talents you have, the things you learnt through life and work experiences,  etc. Look for the positive aspects in everything, everyone, everywhere!

Even better if you write it down, once you start writing, more and more things to appreciate will come to your mind, and you can’t even stop! That is one way to change your thinking and emotional frequency. It will work, unless you are lazy to do it!